Relationships are hard work for most people. It is easy to understand why people turn to social media to rant. I'm mostly talking about sharing negative aspects of relationships while currently in the relationship. Relationships have universal aspects, however; relationships information beyond couples become sensitive information and subject to the scrutiny of others. An aspect of relationships is getting through difficulties together first instead of pulling others, such as family, friends, and the world. This post is not intended to promote secrecy for those in unsafe relationship. Please take care of yourself.
Unintended audiences can read posts
According to Search Engine Journal, 4.8 billion people or 59.9% of the worlds population use social media (1). If you are anything like me, you think there is no way that your video will reach that many people. You only created your post for those in your circle. I could be wrong and maybe you do want as many people as possible to hear what you are experiencing in your relationship. No doubt, there is something cathartic about sharing life experiences. The catharsis may deepen if others respond favorably to our posts. What happens when others do not respond favorably to our posts. In addition, a lot of digital content is still accessible despite attempts to delete it. Back in my day, we had to worry about people finding Polaroid pictures. Now employers, colleagues, friends, friends of friends, frenemies, enemies, and your children can find content that might not be intended for them. In otherwise, avoid posting on social media if everyone is not your eventual audience.
You might regret it
Regret may be a factor depending on your state when posting. Is your post motivated by anger, revenge, calmness, or something else? As such, it might be helpful to give yourself time. The amount of time to wait depends on how long it takes to get to a clear head and heart. Enough time could range from minutes to weeks. It's better for patience to get the best of you instead of impulse in permanent decision like this. Even if a partner started it. Do your best to stay level headed.
You might decide that these reasons are not compelling to withhold posts about your relationships. Fair enough. If these reasons are compelling and you want an outlet; consider finding professionals who are bound by confidentiality and who you think will hold space for both the relationship and you. See my short YouTube video below. Support groups are affordable alternatives if counseling is not doable. Again, with support groups, there is a risk of group members sharing your information with others outside of the group settings. Whatever you choose, remember to take care of yourself!
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